TO ALL FATHERS

Father why are you feeling dejected? Do you think your children don't appreciate you or have neglected or forgotten about you or do not even care about you? What is bothering you and what is the desire of your heart for your children? Wait! God is watching over you and your children you are all in His strong arms. 

Many fathers after some years of fatherhood feel somehow let down in one form or the other that their children are not very appreciative of them, some even goes to the extent of being jealous of their own wife because of the closeness between her and their children. But you see father, it is not that they don't love you but there has been a special string or cord which has connected them both from within even before birth, this string or cord is unbreakable, God has design it to be so. So father be re-assured that your children love you, no matter where they go or what they do or what they become in life, you invited them to this world, they are your seed, without your seed given by God they cannot be in existence. They are gifts from God to you because He delights in you and decided to bless and reward you with them, have confidence in whom God make you to be, be proud of God and your seed, they are God's heritage and His reward from the fruit of the womb.  

The bible says in;
Psalm 127:3-5; 3  Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. 4   As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. 5   Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate. (KJV)

Now let's get to the issue which we are discussing, FATHER THOSE TIME YOU SPENT. The time you spent with your children is not wasted. Those precious memory times can never be forgotten. Father those times you spent and the love you gave are precious and cannot be bought, giving away or sold but can be passed down to the next generations. The godly examples you left them, your sincerity and integrity, your hardworking. Those times that you created even when you say you don't have the time goes a very long way. The time and money spent in educating them, the interest you have in their welfare and their upbringing. The facilities you made available for them, the comfort of the house and the good environment. The time you spent in taking them out to the sport fields and other extra curricular activities, the restaurant, and the family outings and get togethers. The special celebrated birthdays by the swimming pool, or in a park, or a special restaurant or somewhere else, have never been forgotten. Those times you travelled and brought special gifts to them even though they missed you when you were not there, the special kisses that you gave them and those hugs have been with them and they cherish them and have kept it in their hearts. Your advises and disciplines have been within them everywhere even though they seemed strong at the time but now is valued, the Holy Spirit has been reminding them of all those disciplines, guiding and directing them to take the right steps. Father it has been worthwhile. You have not laboured in vain. The love you have shown and demonstrated to them, the name you have giving them, they way of the Lord you have shown and put them have been intact because of Christ Jesus.
Proverbs 22: 6 says; Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.  And

Proverbs 29:17 says 17   Correct thy son, and he shall give thee rest; yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul. (KJV)

FATHER THOSE TIMES YOU SPENT is appreciated don't give up now, the love is there and they care, only the ways of showing it is different. Father please hang on there for your children, good times are still to come and will still come. One day they still have to go, either leaving you for another man or woman in marriage or even leaving you entirely to go to a faraway land but be rest assured that the love they have for you is still intact. The circumstances and necessities of this world might put a separation between you both, but that does not mean out of sight is out of mind. They love you more than you think they do, what they need from you is your daily prayer for them. If they don't go at the right time you might be sad. Now they have gone or will go one day, so prepare yourself and take your delight in the Lord Jesus Christ, let nothing move you but make all things known to God in prayer and He will keep you intact.

Philippians 4:6- 9 says 6   Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. 7   And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. 8   Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

9   Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do : and the God of peace shall be with you. (KJV)

May be you think by yourself that you have not been a good father in your own understanding, don't feel condemned Jesus has not come to condemn you and it is surely not the purpose of this article but to bring you back to where you have missed it, there is a way out in Jesus, just repent, call your children apologise to them if you can or just make it right if you think they might not be able to understand you BUT you can not do this by your power, first you need to confess to Jesus your shortcomings, then ask Him to forgive you, and to wash you with his precious blood, then ask Him to come upon you with His Spirit in power and the Spirit of restoration will put you in the right tract. Then go forth and depend on the power of God, depending on Him to make everything right at it's own time for;
Ecclesiastes 3:11 says 11   He hath made every thing beautiful in his time: also he hath set the world in their heart, so that no man can find out the work that God maketh from the beginning to the end. (KJV)
I love you all with the love of God.

GOD BLESS YOU ALL. AMEN.